Whispers, I had felt like that for many years.
When I was a virgin,I forced myself to have sex just for the sake of having sex and it wasn't the big whoop everyone made it out to be then and I still haven't found it to be such a wonderful thing, since.
Honestly, I could live without it. Until I find a man who actually knows what he's doing.
Or is that another post?
I totally understand when you wrote about society over- exposing it, making way more out of it then neccessary.

I think DrunkSunflower made a good point with "going back to someone I loved and trusted and having lots of fun with them." I think love and trust plays a huge factor in it.
I haven't been able to come by that. But I think it would make a world of difference in the experience.

Your ocd more then likely has something to do with it, too. I'm sure there are guys out there who are the same way. I guess it would be somewhat comical for you to hook up with that kind of guy but he'd "get it" and that would be a good thing for the both of you.
I hope that you find someone to love and trust enough to help you out with this.