Clueless--what a huge step! This is so great for your relationship. It's a brave thing to do...and you have to keep doing it for them to really get how ongoing it is.

A thought about your kids....I was taught to make sure that I talked about my actions as wrong, not me as wrong (pretty difficult when you feel completely at fault). It's important for kids to see us as lovable and capable, just like we want them to be. In an affirmations chat I was in last week , one of Gus's comments was don't call yourself a name you wouldn't call a child...........I've been thinking about that, and catching myself: it's turning out to be very good advice. (Makes a tear come to my eye every once in awhile, but....all for the good).

I am so glad for you. This was a huge step, and so important.