We finally decided not to spend any time with my husband's family for Thanksgiving or Christmas. That may sound un thankful or not in the Christmas spirit, but we have tried. We have endured hurt enough. My husband is much happier. He just forgets about it. I, on the other hand, have done a little ruminating, which has been a little less lately.

I feel slightly responsible - since I believe a little gossiping on my part may have caused them to act the way they are (shunning us). I guess I think people should talk about their problems openly. I do about mine. But I have to remember they want to keep secrets.