I agree with AAAAA. Not all men will cheat. And some that do really do feel bad and see it as a one time thing that actually shows them where their heart really lies (with their wife). Those that are cheaters would be cheaters no matter their gender, relationship status, color etc.... that is who they are. But I can say that I am 110% confident that my bf would never cheat on me. He could have girls throwing themselves at him and it would more than likely make him feel uncomfortable rather than make him want them. So I don't really buy into that statement either.

It's hard to tell his real intentions without knowing either of you personally or the situation from the inside. Could he have acted like nothing happened because he regretted what he did to both you and his wife? Or was it that he was using you and after he got what he wanted he didn't care anymore? I find it hard to believe that a guy would put that much effort (2 hour conversation at a coffee shop) into a girl he was strictly using. I see a straight up cheater as a guy who latches on and you are having sex within minutes, not hours or days or even a semester.

I have had my share of one-nighters and have never once put that much energy into a guy I was strictly using. I was pretty straight forward and never spent hours talking with him beforehand.

I'm glad you are feeling better and realize that it is not you and that whatever it was is on him as a husband. You had urges that you denied until HE came to YOU.

Well, whatever comes out of it, Ich wuensche Ihnen das Beste. (I don't know how to make umlauts with my keyboard lol) und froelich Weinachten!