'You have to want to change' ...Sometimes you can want to change but simply don't have the tools too, in this case such a statement is really unfair, and can be thrown around by some friends and family as if it explains relapses away. In that sense it is a sort of cop out.

However if you don't want to change something, then well, you won't will you.

That statement is poignant to me because it was and is said to me a lot by a certain someone, which made me really question if subconsciously I don't! Which is silly, of course I do, but there are far too many factors in life to put it down to the want to change. However, I think some things cannot change as has been stated above. Mostly, to be honest, I think it comes down to a mixture of external factors when dealing with curable mental illness, things that you can't always provide or gain.

Just my opinion though