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Dec 20, 2010, 05:32 AM
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Member Since: May 2008
Location: Alabama, USA
Posts: 1,309
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The only thing that I can say to you on this front is that:
If a guy cannot accept you for your scars and any other flaws you may have, he just is not the right one for you. I used to worry SO much about that sort of thing when I was a singleton again, but then I met David.
I said to him before I met him "If you want to ask anything, don't be afraid to. Just ask and I'll answer". He knew what I meant, he knew about my scars from pictures he'd seen of me. So we met and now we're engaged to be married in 2012. The reason he chose me is because he loves me scars and all. He loves my scars because they are a part of me. He loves them because they show the battles I have fought and won. If I didn't have scars, I'd probably not be here and that's why he loves my scars.
Any guy who does not accept you and your scars is someone who cannot simply understand that you have fought battles and won. As said above, your scars are battle scars. They are proof that you have come through your troubles alive and kicking, that you are not willing to give up, that you are so incredibly strong.
You will find someone who will love every single part of you, even your flaws, because that's what makes you who you are. A 'perfect' person would be boring. Sometimes, my fiance says to me when I say how much I hate myself and my flaws: "Your flaws make you perfect. They make you perfect because they show a different part of you and they show that you refuse to be what everyone else sees as 'perfect'. Your flaws have made you a better person and continue to do so".
THAT is something I will always remember. Always. Your flaws are yours, because they're a part of you. Nobody can dislike you for that. Be yourself and when asked, tell the truth. If they're decent enough, they'll understand. Just remember to be self protective and don't let out too much at once... Guys like a girl who they have to work out a little bit about.
Seriously, 9 months ago, my then boyfriend told me he loved me and told me he wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. But he hit me and pushed me around and told me he hated my scars, he hated my depression, he hated what a problematic 'thing' I was. I left him. Those 9 months ago, I was a wreck and thought no-one would ever love me. Then I changed my thought processes and realized that the less I worried about my flaws and the more I concentrated on showing my assets, the more likely I was to hitch a guy and then I could tell him about the scars when he asked and be honest and accept it if he couldn't stand the sight of me, accept taht it's his problem not my own.
It is NOT your problem if a guy cannot accept you. It is his.
Sorry for the ramble. I hope this has helped. PM me if you need anything 
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