Jenna, the fact that you go into hisory in your computer to checkup on what he's doing disturbs me...there is definitely a lack of trust there...you should be able to say "this thing that you do makes me uncomfortable and this is why..." and you discuss it together. If he loves you he's going to say "Ok this behavior bothers you and this is how we can compromise (ya know maybe one trip to XXX land/week instead of 7 or whatever.) You SHOULDN'T be invading his privacy (and yes checking history to see where's he going is invading his privacy) Maybe he keeps it quiet because he knows it upsets you and so he's trying not to shove it in your face (he could see this as already compromising on his part. If he's not willing to compromise and neither are you then you shouldn't be getting married. Sorry not trying to be harsh but my husband reads my e-mails, checks history, cruises my favorites...all because he is "curious" what I'm doing and then he gets upset if he sees something he doesn't like...even in marriage you still have to retain your SELF and some things are not secrets they are just private and maybe if you have a really good relationship you are completely comfortable sharing all of the things you hold private with your partner. God I would love a relationship like that. If I got married again I wouldn't settle for any less.