ty,lonegael,the more i think of it i know ur right,,he is here now to spend a couple days,,he just showed up at the door with no warning,lol,i am so happy..i was probably overreacting because he is my oldest and it is hard to watch them grow up and go through things..i will always support him and be thankful that i left his dad,,i was just having a hard day that day..ty for ur reply