I think it also helps to know what and how to change. For years I knew something had to change, but what? I was told I had everything from a bad attitude, to immature views on life, to BPD, to being spoiled (that was a good one, I laughed a good while over that) but was unable to get a hold on anything that was able to give me a hand hld enough to work a change on my life until I got a Bp diagnosis and could start working with the therapy I had had up till then. Knowing something's got to give isn't enough. The will has to have something to work with, otherwise it's just flailing and doing the old trial and error. Too many people get too badly hurt that way.