I married my husband after I saw how well he treated his ex-wife and mother and my mother, etc. I think there's a certain amount of reaping what one sows and having a situation where one or another partner does/does not support the children has a lot to do with the marriage and choice of partner too. My niece walked out on her husband and two adorable young girls within the last year, searching for her own dreams. It is very sad and upsetting and almost unimaginable to me but I look at her father, my brother, and her upbringing and a certain amount of that doesn't surprise me?