Just my own opinion...take what you want. I don't mean to sound harsh, but he has a problem. It is an addiction. He knows you don't like it so he hides from you and LIES to you about it. You are checking up on him and then writing to us without talking to him because you seem to have some hesitancy about talking with him about it. You know very well what this is doing to you and how it is hurting you, yet you don't tell him. You need to look at your own needs here.

In short, you both are hiding things from each other. You are missing a very very important part of a healthy relationship: Trust. This is no way to begin a longterm relationship/marriage. You are setting yourself up for failure unless your modes of communication change.

If you don't like him looking at porn, you shouldn't compromise your ideals. It will bother and haunt you in the end. Things will never feel quite right. Certainly there are compromises in a marriage, but this one is a fundamental issue that should be understood and agreed upon at the beginning -- not based on lies. Otherwise, you are with the wrong person.

<font color=purple>In nature, there are neither rewards nor punishments. There are consequences.
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