Apparently when your kid ignores you your not to get upset, when he yells at you your not to yell back, When he refuses to stand in a corner like you tell him your not to pick him up and put him there, when he refuses to stay there your not to make him but when he pushes you and wants to fight with you your allowed to push him back. How does any of that make sence? Then when you call your partner and ask them for help your not to get upset when they find fault with how you handled it. Even though they know you have no experience with raising kids other then what you have been learning recently. Its not like they can be around to help you learn since they have to work most the time and the kids only try to get physical with you when their at work.