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Old Dec 22, 2010, 07:09 AM
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Originally Posted by zooropa View Post
T told me what is true: I'm okay, and I will be okay without her. I kind of don't WANT that to be true. I don't WANT to be okay without her, because doesn't that mean I don't need her? Doesn't that mean she will send me away?
((((((((((((Zoo)))))))))))))))

It's okay to be okay. I used to be afraid that me being okay = T disappearing, but it hasn't worked that way. There are always things to talk about (it doesn't have to be huge trauma) and I think it feels good to T and to me that I have been able to apply the lessons from therapy and manage my emotions, fears, memories, day-to-day life without him.

Your T promised that she wouldn't kick you out of therapy before you're ready, and she won't. Part of being ready is....being READY. You can be okay, AND not be ready to leave therapy yet. SO not black and white, you know? We're not "sick" or "well". We're somewhere in the middle (even people without therapists....even our THERAPISTS!). That's where life happens. It's okay to be in the middle and to still see T. And if you're not sure it IS okay, just ask, over and over and over and over again, as many times as you need to, until you believe her.

Isn't therapy the weirdest thing ever?

Thanks for this!
rainbow8, seventyeight, zooropa