I am impressed at how well you are able to articulate the practical/logical and emotional sides of all of this. You are wise, and that will help you after some time has passed. I have no doubt that the hurt will lesson.

I think some of what has happened for you here is very basic, though. Everyone wants to be appreciated, and everyone wants people to like them and what they do! Even when I do not like someone, I always want them to like me. When I know that they don't, I get very hurt and upset and feel incredibly rejected. I simply want to be liked; I can criticize myself freely but need the validation from other people.

Please know that I am not being condescending in saying this. You clearly have many reasons to feel frustrated. I'm just saying that it's also normal just to feel hurt.. Make sense? I don't know!