i have gone through the death of my abusive bio-father. i CELEBRATED!!! ev1 thought i had lost my mind but what i had lost was the possibility of him ever hurting me again. i do not miss him ..we had been estranged for may years. i did see him a few years before he died...he denied everything. i walked out the door and never looked back. towards the end he was living in a nursing home so he couldn't abuse me further, but once he died i truly began to heal!! i still have a long way to go and am now acknowledging my anger with my mother who played a big part in pushing him off on me i guess to help save herself. good luck with your healing.