I'm wondering if you and he could meet with the counselor (or another counselor) to talk about your marriage, and what you each need at this time, whether you or he want to have contact, how that will work, etc.

Like any diagnosis, it is just a word for a group of symptoms/behaviors/difficulties. Whether the counselor offers a diagnosis or not is up to the counselor, and whether your husband chooses to share a diagnosis, if it's given, is up to your husband.

But I think it is not unreasonable pressure for you to want to know how this relationship will work now and where you each want it to go.