Ok to answer your beggining question at the top of the post Yes this is the right place, as well as the CAREGIVERS Support forum under Health And Other Support, also check out the post traumatic stress forum since you mentioned that about yourself and Health and Support forums. not saying type all this in everyone(you can if you want to) but i believe those forums will be beneficial for what you are going through

You know migraines can make one feel and act a little loopy although my partner never gets that way he just goes into the other room and i don't hear from him for hours and i know not to disturb him or he will unleash the wrath of 1000 demons on me!!

now i suffer from chronic pain and there have been times where i took my meds too far and yes they make you have slurred speech aggitated start arguments yelling and all crazy like. pain also makes you irritated and angry and frustrated.

i cannot speak for her but personally for me the pain starts then i get mad than i get frustrated than i get sad than depressed than i get in a rage... and what you describe to me what happens to her is what happens to me i call them "episodes" my partner calls me crazy woman b@tch.
what helped was topamax (but it can have nasty side effects) topa is also for migrains, i used it for a mood stabilizer and nerve pain med. it helped slow my thought process so i could actually think before i acted and it got rid of my rage. (it also helped with my tendonitis in my thumbs)weird!

i have heard some people say they get loopy from migraines what is she taking for them now? is she on pain meds? are you sure she is not taking more than prescribe? other meds can make you unstable too and side effects that is why i am asking.

from your writing she seems fine when she doesn't have an episode...so is she still depressed? or is it only when they start to come one? i'm just trying to narrow things down because doctors like to treat symptoms and not so much the cause of the problem.

i could go on but i will stop for now! if you want to pm me anytime to talk i'm here.