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Originally Posted by SophiaG
You know, I used to get really angry when people would say "oh they're just doing it for attention." but now, i'm beginning to think these people were right. Some people complain about every little problem they have with no intention on fixing it or making things better and they just suck the emotional energy out of the good souls that try to help them.
My question is; what does seeking attention give people? Why do people do it? Does it arrise out of some psychological deficet? What is this deficet?
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those that I know, that do things for attention aka self sabotaging their treatment options,willfully dont try things that will help themselves to get better, or doing negative things for attention, they do it for a few reasons -
some have not learned they have the right to say "no" so instead of voicing the "no" they sabotage, choose to remain stuck, or do negative things to prevent a positive outcome. Learning to say "no" comes hard for some people especially those that have been "conditioned" not to say no by their raising or abuse.
Some people have discovered through their raising, or past treatment that does not have appropriate boundaries and rules, that they can gain attention faster through negative ways vs positive ways, especially when their role models are using negative ways to gain attention or their desired outcomes.
Some people are afraid to get better. being sick or abused is all they know so they gravitate to those things.
