A good lesson for me in this experience is that, for the first time, I get it about a boundary not being a rejection....One of the things I've really battled is that any boundary makes me feel rejected--even if I don't like the person, lol. For the first time, I feel like the boundary is perfectly appropriate, not something he is setting up because of bpd, but a real-world boundary.

(I'm sure many other of the boundaries are real-world, too....I haven't experienced them that way, though.)