(((((searching1))))) I am so happy to hear he reached out to you too. I think this is good news. I hope the power of love will see you guys through this too. If he is BPD he will need your support and understanding. but don't take his crap either. I can say for me I am glad my wife doesn't let me walk all over her. I just wish she would be more understanding. But she loves me and sticks by me even when I am a jerk to her. Good luck I really hope things work out for you guys.