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Originally Posted by Tatyana2009
Good that baby is with you. How old is he?
I am sure you are a wonderful mother. I have no doubt about that 
Its important that your son has nice man role models around him from now on - so next time just choose carefully. Take your time with men - just say you have a son so you want to be sure its the right relationship.
I am glad he is happier and no longer afraid of people - thats good. He has been through trauma as well - and at that age it can affect the brain - make sure you hug him a lot with his face to you and look into his eyes with big smiles as much as you can - at least 10 times a day - it will affect his brain development positively and help heal the trauma.
My god - your ex history is devostating. I hope he will be locked for a long time. Can it be classified as attempt murder? (sorry - I hope I am not triggering)
The realisation of being with a guy like this is hard. Its hard for me to think I have been with an abuser, a violent person, a manipulator, a lier, a man who loved to hurt me... so to think that you have been with an outright criminal is very hard. Did you know any of this stuff?
I know what you mean about the exhaustion and draining you - when I left in March - I packed a suitcase and left - with the last bit of strength I had... now I am so much stronger... yes - the spirit does come back but I feel I am carrying this weight and it wont go away...
Thank you for your kind words. Kiss your baby for me. I hug you and wish you a wonderful, peaceful and joyous xmas! xxx |
my baby is 17 months and i hug and play with him alot,tho im not perfect,nobody is,so it does get hard if im going through things like the ptsd...i did not know these things about my ex at the time we met,but over time i did find out some,,by then my mind was trying to believe he was no longer like that,,and by the time i realized he was still a selfish,mean person it was too late for me to be able to walk away..he would intimidate me and then started to become violent then he would act so sorry and tell me if i only understood him that i would not want to leave,,he had my mind extremely manipulated and by the end i couldnt think straight at all,he is a con,and i call him a master manipulator..i lived in constant turmoil and fear..i have to stop now(too hard ,its getting to me) but i hope ur spirit comes back fully soon..i know it takes time and i can already feel mine coming..tc tatyana..i will write more when its not as hard...god bless