Thanks rainbow...thats true.The person who had been in my life with this disorder suffered the same things.Their parents have hurt them badly.There is no support for them and it pisses me off.It isn't easy for any of us to wear a label.I can't imagine what christmas must be like atm.Makes me wanna cry.No not all narcissists are bad and remember....we are all a lil bit messed up.Everyone is faulty.I don't see how my x friend could have been anything else.Same as with my borderline.It was inevitable.They DO have hearts...DO care...and can be awesum friends!