Arli,

Lots of people, including me, find it very difficult to talk to our therapists. You're not alone in that by any means. I was in and out of therapy for many years and spent a lot of time sitting there not saying anything at all, struggling with what I needed to say or even not knowing what was important, what was okay, and what was either not significant or too bad even to tell T about.

Writing it down was what worked for me. Actually, I wrote T a letter explaining why I was hopeless and a waste of time and there was no reason for him to keep trying, although I didn't want him to give up on me. That was a turning point for me. I started to be able to communicate about a few real issues. I had only ever talked about surface stuff before, and it didn't help.

You can write a diary or something like it, or a list of what you need to talk about, or anything that works for you. You can even print this post and show it to her. If you tell her that you are struggling to communicate with her, she can even help you with that too. It gets easier. I don't think it ever gets completely easy, but better than it is now.

Your English is good! If you hadn't said anything, I would never have known that it was a second language for you.

Best of Luck,
Rap