I've been married to my wife for 25 years and we've been as happy as most couples can be during that period. We've worked side by side running a hotel and literally lived out of each others pocket with little argument or conflict. The latter work / live condition in itself is quite remarkable considering it was a 24/7 situation. However, throughout our marriage my wife has NEVER, in the whole of that time, called me by my Christian name, or indeed any other name when addressing me. This worries me. The clientelle of our business have recognised this over the years and have occasionally remarked on this, of course I jokingly fobbed it off with one excuse or another. I don't get addressed like the other guys do by their spouses. A suitable example might be:

" Hey, John, your diner's ready leave the car till later."

or

" Hey, honey, your diner's ready leave the car till later."

I would only receive from my wife:

" Hey, your diner's ready leave the car till later" .........

As you can see by this example she's omitted to give me an identity, I'm just an "it" rather than "John" the real person. This applies to any situation where verbal communication with me applies. I always call my wife by her Christian name when addressing her or requesting anything, so it's not a "get back"..
My wife addresses all her friends and family by their respective names so she doesn't suffer from memory loss or an inability to remember names.
Most people whom I know address their partners or friends by their Christian or nicknames, so why doesn't my wife do this with me? We've discussed this non-identity scenario too many times to remember over the years, with her admitting it takes place, and promising to change things, but regrettably it continues. I really hurts to have no identity in the mind of the person who is by all accounts the closest to me, my wife.
Has anyone else heard of this syndrome and able to put a name to this kind of behavior besides the usual which comes to mind such as, "Ignorant *****" and the likes, and maybe suggest some exact literature I can read on this.

Cheers

PS Divorce and a re-start is totally out of the question.