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Wow. Forgive me Tiberius, but this post sounds extremely 'holier than thou' to me in tone... congratulations to you if detaching your head from your heart is your goal in therapy; I personally was under the impression that bringing the two to work harmoniously together as a whole was the ultimate aim... there are some who sway too much in the direction of the 'heart', and others who try to exclude that completely and try to overide everything with the head. I wouldn't say either is entirely healthy, but then I guess that's what therapy is about.

As for whether they (those who 'embrace' their loving feelings for their therapists) end up worse off, that depends largely on how competently the therapist navigates the client through their transference. This can of course end terribly if the therapist a) oversteps professional boundaries and allows the so called "lucky" client to act on the feelings or b) is inept and unable to help the client process them, thereby leaving them floundering to make any sense of them at all. Some clients are able to struggle through and find some resolution DESPITE an incompetent therapist. However those who have a competent, ethical therapist who is capable of handling the transference very often come out of the therapy with a very positive experience.