One I absolutely do not recommend is Understanding the Borderline Mother, by Christine Anne Lawson. There's a subtitle which makes it clear the book is for children of borderlines. If someone tries to give it to you--who are, I presume, a borderline...get out the garlic and the holy water and crosses and ask them why they are trying to damn you to Hell. Not only is the book debilitating for a borderline who is a mother, but it categorizes mothers into different types (evil witch, empress...or queen or something....don't remember), and those types aren't even helpful for "children" of borderlines (I put children in quotations, because they'd have to be pretty grown up to read this book).

I'm sickened, now, that a long-ago therapist gave me this book to read. All it did was make me sicker. It lags far behind other more family-oriented books now....but then, I'm also not impressed with Randi Kreger's "The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder."

I am impressed with the New Hope book (there's a series) for People with Borderline Personality Disorder, by Neil Bockian; I was helped by Borderline Personality Disorder Demystified by Robert O. Friedel; and I was helped by Lost in the Mirror, by Richard Moskovitz--and that last one is a good one for a spouse (and maybe parents?--but I hide from talking about bpd with my parents) to read.

Any other opinions on those books?-----Hey! Also, as I was looking up these titles, I found that Valerie Porr was a "with" after Neil Bockian's name on the New Hope title.