(1) If these are your husband's kids and not your kids then, I'm sorry to say this but I have to agree that if the children don't want to come over because they don't like you, then they should not be forced to come over. I know what it's like to deal with a bad step-parent. Kids should not be subjected to that. If their father doesn't get that, then he's not being a good father.

(2) Perhaps it should be considered that this kid that you're having trouble with might have a chemical imbalance of some sort. I mean some kids want to listen but they simply cant

(3) If this child is your biological child then you're going to need to put some hard work and effort into learning some better parenting skills. A child should never be hit. I'm sorry to say it, but children learn a lot of their negative behavior from their parents. I would suggest reading some parenting books.

*This is just a side not but it always upsets me when the idea of having children in the home isn't thoroughly thought about before the children are actually brought into the home.Then the kids have to deal with parents that aren't prepared for them. It's a sad situation for all.