Thread: ...and one of my abuser show up. :-(
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Old Dec 26, 2010, 06:09 PM
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aww sorry hun, i only just saw this now. i hope he stayed away from your other parties so you could be out and have a nice time. though i guess if i was surprised like that i would be like extra wary and always on guard. anyway, let us know how it went. i hope you found some pockets of joy over the last few days. take gentle care of you.
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He said that we can email as MUCH as we want (100 times per day). Believe in this - it is challenging fears about being punished. It is okay to be seen. You are not a nuisance. "Too much" simply means exploration, not punishment/withdrawal. Trust in him.

Not looking at him is about keeping aspects of self hidden/secret. We know that is not the healthy choice. Keep working on this - you will get there.

Accept there are parts. Be kind and gentle with them. Working with parts and feelings is the key to happiness. We have been happy before when listened to them and accepted them and were open to feelings. Write in your journal - it is safe to do so.
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Thanks for this!
genn, Hunny