here the mental health community learn to deal with countertransference (therapists projecting their own problems into the client) through our training sessions ie role playing, lectures, films of actual sessions to critique. Alot of our training centers on the dangers of what our unresolved issues / hiding holding unresolved emotions about our clients ie love, hate, frustrations.. could do to our clients. just like children can pick up what their parents are feeling no matter how hard they try to hide it, our clients can also pick up on our hidden emotions. So this issue is a major part of our seminars, workshops, rolee playing trainings.

We are also required to have their own therapists and also required to meet with a supervisor.

Being in therapy our selves we therapists can resolve any of our personal and work related issues during our own therapy sessions. this way we dont bring them in to our sessions with the clients. meeting with the supervisors ensures the therapist has the clients best interests at heart and isnt reading into the sessions things that are not actually there.

one of our work rules where I am is that if any one of us has any attachments, or negative reactions to a client we must take ourselves off the case, refer the client to another therapist within or outside our agencies that can work with the clients issues objectively and with clarity without our emotions, for or against that client.

the clients best interests must always come first before our own.

we also give our clients a form to fill out where they get to evaluate us and our performance, interactions with them and whether there are things we should be working on that we havent gotten to, along with a suggestion question asking if they have any suggestions that they feel would better our interactions with them.

the best thing I can suggest is that when you are experiencing transference or counter transference in your sessions talk with your treatment providers. many times all that is needed to fix something like this is talking over the points where there may be some miscommunication leading each other (therapist and client) to read things with in each other that are not actually there during the conversations.

and by all means if you feel your therapist is projecting their own issues on to you speak up and let them know. The only way we therapists know when there is a problem is if our clients speak up. we are not magical, nor can we read our clients minds.