Hi John and welcome to the forums. Wow, I've never heard of anything like this before. I must admit that I have the urge to start every sentence to you with your first name... So are you saying that she has NEVER addressed you by your first name? I'm curious, If she introduces you to someone, how does that work? I just think that there has to be some underlying reason for this, possibly as darkeyes said something that happened in her childhood? I wish I knew a direction to point you for answers but I'm totally baffled by this. My wife and I have a lot of "pet" names for each other too. She also has a small selection of special names she uses for me for when I get out of line, but that's a story for another time....

It may be a bit on the radical side, but if this is really bothering you, and it seems to be, would you consider telling her that if she isn't willing to address you by name when she speaks to you then you wont acknowledge her? I know it sounds like a very tough stand, but this is a matter of respect. Everyone deserves the respect to be addressed by their names. I don't know, maybe you'd rather not rock the boat and I don't blame you if you don't.

I hope you can find an answer for this, it really leaves me scratching my head quite frankly. But I hope you'll keep coming back and be a member of our family! And we'll always call you John...

Be well,
bptoo

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'committed'."