Thanks Guys. It is going to be so hard not to just bury this and not say anything to t. I just wish that I had never seen that. I can't believe how bad she looked. I couldn't even talk to my brother but then again last week I told t that my parents are together but at what price? My bro is an alcoholic and I am a borderline mess of emotions. That is what my brother learned. One can not deny that. And for me, a reminder of what an invalidating environment we had. Just stirring the gravy not one word said. Boy did that trigger me. I sure wish t's had a golden rule where they didn't take a week off at Christmas time. It is such a tough time because of all the family gatherings. I hope that I feel better by the time he gets back and this is just old business.