yes, this is how we are, SilverMoon, we think what we are used to is how it always is,, but thankfully,, change is everywhere, and available to us, internally and externally~! it sounds like you chose a really good bf, and he has a wonderful family,,, i hope you let them see you for who you are, and be sure they will accept you ,, even if it is a risk, it's well worth it if they do~~ best wishes,, Gus