Hey Tiberius,

As someone who is (slowly) training to do counselling but who is also in therapy:

Lemme tell you, counter transference and transference are two wayyyyy different ballgames.

Therapists/counsellors are given tools to deal with their own issues and countertransference. They also dont work through their own issues with their clients -- they do it through supervision with a colleague, or with their own therapist.

Now, transference is something that happens in a lot (if not most/all) of therapeutic relationships. It just means you've got something that may be unresolved that you need to deal with. Not the end of the world by any means, and it's kinda interesting figuring yourself out while working with a therapist.

I think transference happens in daily life, we just dont call it that. If you have a coworker who really pisses you off and reminds you of a parent of yours, that's a kind of transference. (There is also the term "projecting" in this)

http://www.crisiscounseling.com/arti...ansference.htm

Book on countertransference: http://books.google.ca/books?id=ML8C...page&q&f=false

And some random links from PsychCentral which may be of interest:

http://psychcentral.com/blog/archive...nt-a-good-fit/
http://blogs.psychcentral.com/unplug...our-therapist/
http://psychcentral.com/blog/archive...-my-therapist/
http://blogs.psychcentral.com/unplug...-my-therapist/
http://psychcentral.com/blog/archive...our-therapist/
http://blogs.psychcentral.com/unplug...th-dependency/
http://psychcentral.com/blog/archive...of-therapists/
http://blogs.psychcentral.com/unplug...herapist-ever/
http://blogs.psychcentral.com/unplug...-on-the-couch/