OK, I had to skim over things as I have strong feelings on this subject that I am not always able to manage effectively so... if I am repeating things I appologise.

Based on your avitar I am assuming you are female? women are far more difficult to diagnose as women with autism are more socially capable than their male counterparts that most of the research is based on.

There is no magic pill for autism. I am firm in nurodiversity and do not see my autism as a disability so even if there were a pill to "fix it" I wouldn't be taking it. Nor would I give it to my Auti (autistic) son... at 18 he could make his own choice. My autism in so many ways has proven to be a very special gift.

2 books that I suggest... 1. all cats have aspergers... it helps put things into perspective 2. Simple Strategies That Work! Helpful Hints for All Educators of Students With Asperger Syndrome, High-Functioning Autism, and Related Disabilities

yes the second one is geared towards school age "kids" but Man did I find it helpful in dealing with myself! Brenda smith miles and Diane Adreon (a dear friend of mine) have both done some wonderful work in helping make life more comfortable and allowing those on the spectrum to be more functional.

If it seems to "fit" there are a lot of books out there written by people on the spectrum about how they cope and other useful tools. There are two major publishers in the field and both have excellent resources. If the suggestions seem to make life easier for you use them... you don't need the label to be able to benifit from those who do.

Anyway... I am an apsi with autism as an area of obsession... I have also done a lot of work in the field... and my son is auti and making huge strides the experts didn't think were possible. although again, I am a bit controversial and very opinionated. Feel free to PM if you like.