Hi SlatkaMala and Hayward! I can't help much because I am quite an angry person and I also have a hard time letting things go!! But, one thing that does help me is if I remind myself that I am giving away my power if I let things or people from the past control me. They've already hurt me once, and if I hold on to my anger then I'm just letting these things continue to hurt me. Anger and resentment are really heavy loads to carry and I find it exhausting when I get stuck in an obsessive loop of angry thoughts. It's definitely not good for my health either. Plus I hate the kind of person I become when I have this giant chip on my shoulder. It makes me bitter and unkind.

Obviously it's not as simple as simply making a decision to let it go (I've tried that unsuccessfully!!) But when the angry obsessive thoughts start plaguing me I really try and remind myself that I'm only hurting myself by letting them control me. Then I either try and distract myself or find some other outlet. The two outlets that help me the most are exercise and journaling.

In the longer term it can be helpful to work with a therapist on assertiveness techniques if you notice a pattern.

Anyhow, I know full well how difficult this can be and what I've written here is way easier said than done!!!!!!!!!