Sure. I can still get furiously angry. Elementary school and J. High were horrible times for me. Kids have not developed empathy at all, where they have it is very spotty, and they are little pack-animals. What helps me is reminding myself that really, it was the grownups who should have been more on top of things. Kids don't have the developmental sense to know where to stop. Now I have them, I know.

it leaves scars, doesn't it? Something hits you the wrong way and it hurts. Then the anger comes. At soem point, I starting trying to tell myself that the best revenge was a life well lived. I couldn't let them continue to have that much power over me.

Once, whne I was home for a while, my son was at a day care run by a girl I wasnt to school with. Her stepsister made my life hell in Jr. Hih school, and was a totally different girl than the day care teacher. Once, I and my son's day care teacher were gossiping about her, and the teacher said that this one -time bully had gotten so far into drugs that both of her children were badly handicaped from the use during pregnancy - in fact, I saw her with one of them as I drove back home with my son. I sat that night and cried for that woman and those kids. I think I can honestly say that I forgave her, maybe even before I had known what had happened. You know what was wrong with her ended up destroying her. I may be bonkers, but I have two relatively happy, healthy kids; my youngest's problems aren't due to my actions. I have a good education, a good man, and can still steer much of my life. She is still trapped.
So in the end, who is the victim? I decided not to be destroyed early on. The results don't come over night, but the past is a dream. When you get angry, it's because something tells you, the past is still relevant. It's up to you to decide if it is. Man, I'm Preachy! Huggs and I really hope you can ditch the anger. It can eat you up. It nearly did me!