yes, what lonegael said: too often we believe our own thoughts,, those thoughts are just echoes of lies told to us down thru the years, our worse fears, leaping up to taunt and haunt us. don't listen to them... and emotions are so flimsey, they come and go,, one day they're here, the next they're gone: don't rely upon your feelings to guide your behaviors!! one of my favorite authors has a book called "Start Where You Are"... to me that is so profound,,, accept that we are here, now, and go on from there, instead of wishing and regreting what is not... keep posting,, and best wishes,, Gus