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Dec 28, 2010, 06:46 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Hi dearheart --- Jeez I'm sorry this is happening. I know this is breaking your heart, but you said that you know this is for the best. Many times it IS for the best. I wish MY parents had gotten divorced. 
My mom and dad fought all the time. And by that, I mean not just yelling & screaming, but they got into physical fights -- and that terrified us kids. We didn't know from one day to the next if our family was going to be intact or not. They were both alcoholics to boot. For some strange reason we always celebrated Christmas on Christmas eve -- and us kids had to wait until they closed the bars to celebrate Christmas. So we'd all be sitting up waiting til 2:30am for mom and Dad to come home -- and of course they were higher than a kite. Christmas was no fun -- and even all these years later, I don't like Christmas. I've had therapy for this and still it haunts me.
Parents staying together when they don't want to can cause horrible damage to the kids. So this might be the best thing to happen. Just make SURE that your Mom allows your Dad to see you whenever he wants to after the divorce!! It's important that you have BOTH parents. too often the kids suffer from the split, and it shouldn't be that way. This split is NOT your fault. It has nothing to do with YOU.
So make that clear to your Mom that you want to be able to see your Dad as much as possible! You have 2 parents and no one should get slighted. Best of luck dearheart and take care. Please keep posting if you need to. We'll listen. God bless. Hugs, Lee
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