Also wanted to add that a dom/sub relationship isn't the best place to find those things, it is about power exchange and playing the designated roles, not to say there can't be those things in a dom/sub relationship, or that there shouldn't be, but it just doesn't sound like the right fit for you at this time in your life especially because of your age, and that it would do you more harm than good, and I from what you have said it doesn't sound like this guy would be a good match for you if you pursued this.