My situation - like many others, I imagine - is quite complicated. I love my parents to pieces....They were incredibly abusive towards me throughout my childhood...and then I became their caregivers in my adulthood. This turn of events complicates things tremendously for me.

When my dad died 3 years ago, I was crushed. The pain was so so so horrible, and I still haven't fully grieved the loss....I also haven't dealt with the abuse either, although I am in therapy....

Because I feel such grief and sadness over my dad's death, I find it very difficult to feel anger towards him because any anger is quickly consumed by the guilt and sadness. SO complicated....

Closure is also different when an abuser passes on. I haven't tried the empty chair technique - and have no intention of doing that. I'm not sure how I will get some closure with it all.