Please don't consider yourself a failure! I can tell that you did the best that you could! I intentionally put both my sons in therapy when they were in their early teens. I should have done so earlier. I did the best I could, but I was occasionally abusive due to my personality issues. I wish my mother had put me in therapy. At least the issues are being addressed earlier, so he should be okay! Some children are born with "issues," in a way, and even the best parenting isn't sufficient.