Don't go! Pretty simple for me as nothing is more important than staying in my safety zone. I used to travel 50k+ air miles per year for business and I have been on all of the wonderful vacations I need to. I live pretty far from where I grew up and my family has been very understanding when it comes to funerals and such. Recently my grandmother died and I went into a tailspin over the thought of having to travel. My dad gets my situation and called me to tell me that the did not want me to feel obligated to come.