Hi CarmenMCL :-)

Sorry to hear what your going through at the moment but it did ring a bell with me. My friend who has Bipolar has a daughter (now in her early 20's) who use to talk to her in a disrespectful way. Like yourself she was very hurt and had tried talking to her daughter many times and explaining how much it hurt her when she said mean things.

My friend realized that no matter what she said her daughter continued doing it. She finally realized why. Her ex-husband who treats her disorder like a joke always made fun of her in front of her child. Hence, her child picked up the bad nature from her father. If daddy thinks its right, then I will get away with it. She always sided with her father.

After the father and my friend had a long discussion (several times) he stopped his behaviour and the daughter stopped hers. Now her daughter is her closest friend and would not treat her badly ever.

Have you talked to your husband and your son's grandma about your concerns? Perhaps if they stopped treating you badly then your son may also.

Take care
*hugs*