"then I think about how I feel over this one small thing and I wonder if stuff my parents did to me was also just as small and maybe I am broken inside and just saw it as much bigger than it really was in real life? Maybe I wasn't really as hurt as I felt I was but the small stuff just stood out because I was too sensitive or maybe my head doesn't work right?"

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What your parents did in the past and how you felt about that is real. And those are not little things. what happened with t in the present is something different. I hope you can bring it up in T that your mind is making this connection, as it is probably an insightful one. And I'm also hoping that your present concerns about T will not invalidate your feelings about the past. On the other hand, I can totally see how what your T said about the coffee and him forgetting the last session could have been hurtful to you. It seem as though he was having a bad day, and I'm sorry it was triggering and that it is making you feel quite rubbish now. I hope you can talk through this!