I do think that individuals are born with different needs from the beginning & not just what is developed from the relationship with our parents even though that also has a huge part in our development.

Think it's impossible to generalize about things like this as each person is so very different.....just as you have the need for security, I actually pushed my parents away from me at a very young age. Didn't want anyone to see me holding hands with my parents & was very independent from the time I can even remember. My psychologist offered the thought that because I did have the security available to me & wasn't in need of it, it made it possible for me to not have the need for it & could be more independent.

It is usually never "one thing" (unless the one thing is so very traumatic) that causes our behavior to be what it is. We have to take the whole picture into consideration & then the personality that we are born with plays a part in that also. Sometimes I don't think there is any one answer as to why we are the way we are & just have to work to adapt the parts that end up causing us problems in the now. I think that some of the why's may never really be known or maybe even be that terribly important that they are something we even need to work through (if it wasn't a serious trauma).

Ah, how complex the human mind is in it's development process. Hope that you will be able to work through your need for security if it's something that is really bothering you.

I think that some people are born more independent than others & then the the way our parents treat us & things that happen in our life all have an influence on how our original tendencies develop.

Think your T may change her mind as she gets more pieces of your puzzle she is working to put together & may realize that there may be something of more importance then when she originally stated what she was planning on doing.

Sounds like you have a pretty awesome T working with you & that you are really progressing even if it may not feel like it at the moment.

Keep up the good work