Actually this is the best therapist I've ever had. I like her alot. My needs require strict boundaries to heal from trauma related issues. When I don't have those boundaries I do not feel safe. I've learned the hard way. My personal experience has taught me that I need a therapist and not a friend. I too wanted to be friends with my old T. But it was a distraction from therapy and I didn't get anything done.

I think it is good that you are exploring these issues.