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Originally Posted by rainbow8
I'm sorry these types of threads are triggering for you, katlover. I agree with part of what you said: I think we should accept each other's views. However, I don't think we "should" stop talking about it. Maybe these threads, like the one I started, should have a trigger on it. I will do that in the future. But, this is the forum to discuss our therapy, and obviously, the topic of Ts caring or not caring, etc. is very important to a lot of us! If it's triggering, just like any thread, you don't have to read it. I think that anything within the rules of PC is all right to talk about.
So, I think we need to all do what you suggested--accept one another's views, and realize that therapy is different for each of us. Many of us have a problem with validation, myself included. But it's therapeutic to realize that just because we have different opinions, it doesn't mean I'm right and the other person isn't. It's not black or white. I think we all need another group hug.  |
Rainbow- I'm sorry I didn't come across with my point very well. I think I might have misstated it. Let me try to clarify. I have no problems with the threads of "does my t care". In fact I think its a relatively interesting topic. Whats triggering me is the pushyness of some people on their views. The threads feel argumentative to me. It makes me feel unsafe to share my view becuase I might get torn to shreds for holding that view. I understand it is an intense topic but I dont think people are being validating of everyones views and being supportive. In my mind support is the central function of PC and I feel some of these threads have strayed from that function and instead have become battlegrounds for whos view is superior. I hope that helps. I have no intention of upsetting anyone or pointing any fingers. I just wanted to share my feelings and views on the subject.