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Originally Posted by Etrees
I personally think your therapist stopped before you had a breakthrough-which is the worst thing a therapist can do. The most important thing to do right now is talk with your Significant Other and explain the situation from your POV. Explain to him that you see what he did as rape and that it will be hard to get trust for him again- what he did was a mistake to himself, but to you it's like he broke your trust (my interpretation, sorry if I misunderstood)
You also have to get used to triggers off of things like movies about being raped. I would get triggers from just hearing about kids being abused. I still get them occasionally, but there's a point in you that you have to reach where you work through it. Find a coping mechanism. Mine was writing, maybe yours is painting, or go shooting or boxing. Find some way to get out your emotions. I found writing to be best for my therapist and I because I would give myself a breakthrough while writing and my therapist would walk me through what I need to do next to move on.
I really hope this helps *hugs*
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Thanks. I know about some triggers, like the stupid rape scene. But it was new movie and we didn't know it was in there. I talked with him some more last night/today. I actually kind of beleive he really is that stupid and didn't mean to hurt me like that. It just sucks. And I don't know what to do. I don't like writing or painting or any normal stuff. I like horseback riding and running with a local rescue squad. Neither are too creative and only one is somewhat stress releiving. And that's only if my horse is in a good mood haha! I honestly am just tired of this BS. I don't want to have to talk to a new therapist. I don't want to have walk them through all that crap again and go back to those stupid memories. OMG I just realised I'm whining! sorry! Anyways, geuss I gotta do what I gotta do. Thanks for your ideas. You were definitely helpful
