My T is a very caring person, "IRL" and in the therapy room.

I don't start any sentences that way at all; what T ays to me is private and not shared. The sole exception would be on PC, where people actually ask what your T might have said. but as for dominating my conversations with others - zero.

and I'm definitely not thinking about my T all the time.

So come on VenusHalley, take a deep breath, pick yr courage up, and get started. If you read PC regularly, if's a fair bet that you are feeling a need of therapy.