This is the place where I've arrived too. Even though from the first session I had the feeling (which I have rarely had) that she was someone who could have been a good friend, she's been a better T than perhaps she could have been/would be a friend.....and that's the role I would want to have her my life in the future, should the need be there. And that was how she put it as well - that she would be there for future needs, if something arose again. I think her phrase was, put that in your long-term memory! And that is a comfortable thing for me - really helped me accept and resolve, I think, both the feeling I'd want her for a friend and the feeling of loss that I wouldn't have her as a friend or that I'd 'lose' her when this time is done. The attachment that is there has become a more secure thing.